You want to last longer in bed. This is every man’s dream.
Premature ejaculation is a clinical term, but it’s vague. It can point to a serious physical or neurological problem, but it can also point to just not lasting as long as you’d like. Either way, there are things that you can do to help yourself last longer, raise your confidence levels and help you have a happier partner.
Empirical data points to somewhere between twenty to thirty percent of U.S. males being affected by premature ejaculation.
That’s not an insignificant number of people experiencing the same problem. It can totally destroy your night, but it can also lead to lower self-esteem, decreased self-confidence and an increase in stress and anxiety — especially in bed.
There’s a social stigma associated with premature ejaculation that calls into question your masculinity. Basically, just because you have an issue that you have to deal with, you’re somehow less of a man. We, as men, place a significant amount of pressure on ourselves to be able to perform in bed. This leads to stress and anxiety which are common factors in creating sexual dysfunction that leads to premature ejaculation. Then, if you prematurely ejaculate, you build more stress and anxiety about your performance in bed and put more pressure on yourself. It’s a self-perpetuating problem.
So, what can you do to try and fix it?
We’ll, first, you should go to see a doctor.
There are physical and neurological issues that can lead to premature ejaculation that you will want to rule out before proceeding with any products or techniques Once you’re made sure that you’re healthy and have gotten the all-clear from your doctor, you can move on to a few methods that can help you keep things going in the bedroom longer.
The key is learning the physical signs that you are getting close to orgasm, but not so close that it’s too late to do anything about it.
Start-stop patterns can help to hold off orgasm. It’s a pattern that you start well before orgasm is imminent, that way you can build confidence in its effectiveness. And it’s exactly what its name implies. By stopping and starting you delay your orgasm, and you also learn about what you can do to put a halt to your building orgasm without destroying your erection.
Of course, the stop and start pattern can be distracting to a partner, so open communication about taking these steps is important. You don’t want to ruin her orgasm either, but with the knowledge that it will ultimately lead to you lasting longer in bed for them, it’s pretty obvious that they’ll be on board. Furthermore, you can offer reciprocal attention for them in various forms in order to make it worth their time and effort.
Another way to delay orgasm and address your premature ejaculation issues is to start applying tantric yoga practices to your sexual habits.
These holistic techniques are intended to give you a deeper mastery and control over your own body and some of the side effects are said to include more impressive and longer lasting erections, marathon sex sessions and increased pleasure during sex and especially powerful orgasms. One of the key factors of tantric practices that helps with premature ejaculation is the conscious act of relaxing yourself.
Tantric sex uses breathing exercises which are intended to increase sexual energy, and rather than centering it entirely in the groin and pelvis, as is often the case during the sex, spreading it throughout your entire body. The effect is that, rather than struggling to maintain sexual pressure in one spot, it is spread out and easier to handle.
Premature ejaculation can also be a result of distraction.
Anxieties from other parts of your life may enter your mind at the wrong time, increasing pressure and stress and fight or flight reactions within your own mind. Tantric techniques emphasize staying in the moment and being present. If you are deeply conscious of your body and its responses to various sexual stimuli, then you will be fully aware of how aroused and erect you are. There are no surprises. Avoiding distraction can be key in battling premature ejaculation or just managing to last longer in bed.
What’s important to note is that, while premature ejaculation is a problem, it’s difficult to define what is “premature.”
Basically, any orgasm that comes before you intend could be considered premature. These techniques are useful in combatting embarrassing premature ejaculation, but are also just great techniques for lasting longer in bed in general. Your partner will definitely thank you for finding time to practice tantric techniques in bed. Furthermore, they include great advice for life in general. Being more conscious of yourself and being more present in the moment are great ways to go through life.
Another thing that you can do is try different sexual positions.
Do some research into what different positions can help you last longer and try them out. Trying them out is the only way to find out if they work for you. Some might be too complicated; others may just not have the desired effect. You need to practice them with a trusted partner to see if they work, so this may be more for someone in a longer term relationship, rather than a partner you’ve just met or ate just starting out with.
All of this, taken together, points to a need for you to find a way to relax, let go of your stress, and live in the moment with your partner in bed.
These techniques can get you there. And in getting there, you’ll build your confidence, your self-esteem, which will only help you even more in bed and in life. Women generally dig confidence.