Why Aren’t You Ready to go for Round 2 in the Bedroom?
The answer to that question lies within two words: Refractory Period.
Refractory periods are a pain in the rear end, to say the least. For starters, they don’t allow men to go a second round in the bedroom. So, if you’re that guy that loves to have sex, but happens to be shot down by a refractory period, you won’t be able to go again and again and again, unfortunately. Plus, I don’t think there’s anything more frustrating than having amazing sex and not being able to go again.
The proper definition of a refractory period is the period of time where a man ejaculates, but is unable to have an erection again immediately after. While there is no way to completely eliminate a man’s refractory period, there are ways to make your recovery time shorter. That’s what I’m going to talk about below, that and everything else you’ll need to know about refractory periods in general.
Let’s start with why you guys have refractory periods in the first place.
Why do guys have refractory periods?
It all has to do with the natural changes your body goes through after it orgasms. In other words, your body is sending neural signals throughout your body to help calm you down from the excitement, making your penis flaccid. This can be better phrased as the post-ejaculation period of sex. While your body is sending these signals throughout your body, it is also encouraging dopamine and testosterone levels to drop. In turn, the hormone produced by your pituitary gland, known as prolactin, rises.
I’m assuming you know a good amount of information on the hormones dopamine and testosterone, but you’re probably wondering what the heck prolactin is. Prolactin, the hormone produced by your pituitary gland, as stated above, is supposedly one of the contributing reasons why you can’t get your penis stiff again after you’ve had an orgasm. The high levels of prolactin and the low levels of testosterone work hand in hand to make sure your penis doesn’t become hard right away.
Unfortunately enough for men, they seem to be the only ones that have such a problem with their sex life after the orgasm; women don’t have this issue, and if they do, it’s very minimal. Women are actually designed to have multiple orgasms, which means they can go round after round. Keep in mind, that just because their bodies can go through multiple orgasms, that doesn’t mean they want to. Women tend to be very sensitive down under after they’ve reached orgasm, so pump the breaks until she’s ready for round two.
How long do refractory periods typically last in men?
I’m unable to give you a definite answer to this question, as every man is different when it comes to refractory periods. Some men can be ready in less than an hour, others can be ready within a few hours, and still others need an entire day to recuperate.
To add, the length of your refractory period changes in time, too. In other words, a big part of your refractory period time has to do with your age. Sometimes younger men need less time before they go again and sometimes it’s the older men that need less time before they go again, there’s no 100% accurate answer on this.
Other factors that may weigh in on how long your specific refractory periods last could come back around to the number of hormones in your body at that time, the amount of arousal you feel in between sessions, and your overall health.
Is there anything you can do to shorten your refractory period?
While it’s a better idea to give your body a rest for a little while after you have sex, there are a few things you can do if you really have the urge to do it again.
The #1 way to get you horny and hard again is to increase your arousal, and this can be done in a number of ways. For starters, you could throw a toy into the mix. Your partner could talk dirty to you (the type of dirty you like). Even small changes in the normal sex routine can have a great impact on your arousal.
Additionally, there are other ways to help cut down that refractory periods time frame; try going to the gym or working out at home. The healthier and more in shape you are, the better chance you have at reducing your refractory time. Plus, if you’re in great shape, your hormones will regulate throughout your body easily.
If you’re looking for a little extra help, try taking some all natural supplements that are provided over-the-counter. Most of them assure you that you’ll get harder faster. But make sure you do your research and take only the right supplement for your personal preference.
Other ways you can go about shortening your refractory periods can be considered, and two of the most common methods are to use a cock ring or penile pump after orgasm (although, you should probably wait at least 5 minutes after you orgasm, as you don’t want to damage any nerve endings).
Here’s one last nifty trick you can keep in mind:
If your partner really wants to go again, you can stall the time by getting her off again. In other words, work your magic and get her to reach the brink of orgasm and then you should be back and ready to go for another round (if she still has the energy). This tends to get you aroused again, too.
REMEMBER, as long as you have hands, fingers, and a tongue, you can keep this party going.
By Jenny Lyn